With four children (now adults) and now three grandchildren, I do very little sewing for myself. I really want to learn to properly fit clothing and make my own wardrobe. I have everything ready to go - I just need to set aside the time to get started.
While perusing fabric to use for The Bailey Tablet Tote instructional photos, I came across a flannel that I had to have. Not for the pattern photos - it was too dark. No, this fabric would be just for me. And I knew exactly how I would use it. This rarely happens, and many times the end result is not my vision. But just as soon as the pattern was finished and launched, I was determined to make this bag.
Sewing handbags has for the most part been an exercise in frustration for me, with some victories. Partly because of my unrealistic expectations because I have lots of sewing under my belt, and partly because I let my new machines get the best of me. I start out "in the zone" and a Pollyanna vision of how it will go. But as soon as the
- interfacing starts lifting
- the thread and or bobbin messes up
- the topstitching looks wonky
- the seam is puckered
- the interfacing lifts some more
- my machine can't handle the thickness
I am ready to throw in the towel. And almost all of my bagmaking to-date has been for testing our patterns, or for gifts. Other than one Janie Pouch that I claimed after making a half dozen, I have not considered even choosing fabrics for myself.
Pickle Dish image
I planned my project and had everything ready to go. Then I saw a post on our Facebook group sharing a "selfish sew."
Granted, the majority of posts in our group are related to either customers or gifts. Occasionally, someone will say "this one is for me." But I had to pause when I saw the "selfish sew" term. I will admit that I didn't ask the poster if they were using it tongue-in-cheek. I just saw it as having a negative connotation - the same as saying something is a "guilty pleasure."
Why would anyone who sews and knows how much time, money, and sometimes frustration goes into your project, but also the great sense of satisfaction you get, ever think that sewing something for themselves is egocentric? Whether your sewing is a hobby or a business, why is using your skills and talents for yourself selfish?
And the same applies to that good feeling you get when sewing for others. That is absolutely NOT selfish sewing.
I thought about the project I had planned. My to-do list for both my home and the business is beyond long. There's always something to clean, cook, or wash and a myriad of business tasks to do. Was it selfish for me to take my time to do something for myself?
Exploring a hobby and being creative are crucial to both Psychological and Emotional Self-Care - Columbia River Mental Health Systems
Absolutely not! We all need me-time and self-care. If sewing is your therapy, if making something for yourself makes you happy, if just spending time in your sewing room practicing stitching or sketching ideas, if broadening your sewing skills, or challenging yourself to stretch them, then do it. With no agenda or outcome other than doing for yourself.
And then show if off to everyone and say "I made this for JUST FOR ME!
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My finished Bailey Tablet Tote has made me smile for so many reasons:
- The pattern is 100% my design
- I loved trying out paint pens and matching thread colors from my stash
- The coziness of sitting on the couch doing embroidery after so many years away from it
- Matching the plaids for both the front panel and the back seam
- Getting the topstitching just right
My tote isn't perfect - the flannel stretched a little on the straps while sewing, making the plaid a little wavy. Perfection was not the goal.
The process was 100% enjoyable as I was familiar with all the steps, so no frustrations at the sewing machine. I have a bag that no one else will ever have. I've learned how much I have missed creating my own interpretations of projects. I didn't suffer one moment of guilt, and make no apologies for the time spent.
And I made if for myself!
Labels by Pink Coat Club - sadly out-of-stock
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